Giving: Keep It To Yourself
When I started doing charity work and giving money several years ago, I was told about the below Bible verse.
1 "Take care! Don't do your good deeds publicly, to be admired, because then you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven. 2 When you give a gift to someone in need, don't shout about it as the hypocrites do -- blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I assure you, they have received all the reward they will ever get. 3 But when you give to someone, don't tell your left hand what your right hand is doing. 4 Give your gifts in secret, and your Father, who knows all secrets, will reward you."
I would not consciously but unconsciously want to tell people or accidentally 'let it slip'. I think deep down because I wanted people to think "he's a good guy". Many people do tell others about the good things they do, I think if you are doing it to educate or inspire it is fine. If for other means, the ego is usually involved.
When I told people I would get a little rush of excitement which was my ego being stroked. I felt good for that instant. However something started to happen. After telling people I would feel nothing. I would no longer feel good about the act of charity. I would even feel bad in some cases. I knew I had let my ego triumph, and my 'soul' was ashamed.
In the above quote from a non-religious aspect I think what it means, to me at least is if you tell others about your charitable acts you have gotten your reward. That short burst of approval. However if you keep it to yourself, the positive emotion you felt when giving will stay with you. Your reward will be constant and continuous. You will be at peace with yourself. Knowing that you are a good person. This assurance will come from within (From the Holy father if you like).
Since I've been doing this 'keeping it to myself' I feel really good about my acts. The initial joy of being selfless stays with me, and is slowly becoming a part of me. If you are someone who shares your good deeds far too often try keeping it to yourself. I reckon you'll love the feeling.
To your success,