Is Whatsapp Making Your OCD Worse?
A few sessions ago I was talking to my therapist about Whatsapp. In particular how it encourages anxiety in me. At that time it spurred on obsessions and then ruminations around Relationship OCD (ROCD). What I am about to explain could affect many subsets of OCD, notably HOCD.
At that time I was having obsessions around my partner not loving me, or being there for me. I was also obsessing that she did not meet my conversational needs, and was too quiet for me. So… When I was having those thoughts, and then seeing that she had been online, but not responded to my message/s. It drove me crazy with anxiety. My brain kicked in “See she doesn’t find you funny”, “See you don’t fulfill her”, and so on. This could easily be the start of a few days of intense anxiety, until I opened up and talked about it. Only to realise my fears were based on imagination, and not reality.
Is this a problem with your OCD? Or just general mental health? If so, you can turn this ‘Last seen’ feature off.
In Whatsapp, go to Settings > Account > Privacy > Then click ‘Last seen’ and change to nobody.
“If you don’t share your Last Seen, you won’t be able to see other people’s Last Seen”
People won’t be able to see when you were last online (which doesn’t bother me either way), but the main thing is you won’t be able to see when they were last online.
This may stop your brain jumping to conclusions as to why they have been on whatsapp but not responded. When in reality they were probably just busy, preoccupied or not paying attention.
Try this out for size and see if it helps. You will need to be mindful, and accepting that you do not know when they were last online. Live, and be happy in the uncertainty. Once you get better at it, put the feature live again and practice mindfulness.
Let me know how it goes?!
To your success,
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