Jaws, I’m Coming For You
"Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free." Jim Morrison
“Fear is not real. It is a product of thoughts you create. Do not misunderstand me. Danger is very real. But fear is a choice.” Will Smith
Fear is an illusion. However for most of my life this illusion has forced itself into my reality. So far I have lived a good life, for which I am so very grateful. With hindsight I know I squandered so many opportunities, moments and experiences not because of a lack of talent or will, simply because of fear. We all have fear. You can never really get away from it. You don't want to completely remove it because it has its uses for survival. That being said the world mostly is a good place, we don't need to be so fearful any more. We don't need to let our minds fill up with nasty possibilities that will never come true. Our minds struggle separating between reality and imagination. When it comes to fear this isn't a good thing.
I saw Geoff Thompson on the London Real podcast the other day. He was talking about how he realised fear ran his life. He decided to face his fears one by one. He came up with the 'fear pyramid' concept. Then wrote down all his fears and placed them into a pyramid. He inserted his smallest fears at the bottom, and his greatest near the top.
Below is my fearamid (haha). I will start at the bottom and work my way to the top. I might end up crossing one off that is ahead, this is fine. The goal is too be at ease with these situations. To be able to do them in spite of fear. The goal of this exercise is courage not removal. Absence of fear would just be the icing on the cake.
Here is my list of fears (at this time) starting from the smallest to the 'shit my pants' kind of fear:
- Taking a piss in the urinal (sometimes not an issue) Complete - fear slayed!
- Horror films - over active imagination!
- Caring too much about what people think
- Being attacked in the dark
- Talking to homeless people
- Being self employed
- Calling people on their bad behaviour (confrontation)
- Being able to approach any women in a romantic sense (sober)
- Technically climbing a mountain
- Swimming in the sea (sharks - hence the article title)
When I conquer each fear like a heroic knight (bit of imagery for you) I will write articles about each fear. Why I had the fear and how I overcame it. I will link to these articles using the above list.
What are you afraid of? Tired of running? Then stop, and face those little critters - remember, the only place they exist is in your head.
To your success you fearless animal,