‘Love You, Love You Not’ rOCD Book Review
What a fitting title. In fact at times of anxiety around the relationship I've looked at that cover and just laughed. Such a witty and painfully poignent title.
I have had OCD related issues around dating and relationships since I was 22. My OCD never touched relationships before this. But that's another story I'll cover at a later date. The key of this article is to review the book and maybe encourage you to buy it, should it meet your needs.
Any way I was looking for a search box moment. I was upset that I was with this amazing girl and some days I would be swamped with anxiety around the suitability of the relationship, and then other days it was great. I was figuratively 'going out of my mind'. I started searching the web for others who have OCD and similar relational concerns. I started to find out that I was in fact not alone (phew). It even has its own term, rOCD or relationship OCD. After a little more searching and reading I stumbled upon a blog called RelationshipOCD.com.
The blog offers some great down to earth advice. They were (are) selling a book called 'Love You, Love You Not' which talked about rOCD and how to recover from it. In my desperate situation I had to take a chance. Click - purchased.
Let me start with the end. The book helped me immensely. It made me understand what love truly was, how to break the cycle of repetitive worries and gave me a lot of hope. Something that at that time, was in short supply.
The book covers:
- The background of rOCD
- What love is (tainted by Hollywood)
- The idea of 'falling out of love'
- The 5 ways to love
- The components of love
- How to break the intrusive thought cycle
- Q&A section from the blogs readers
- Planning your recovery
What I liked about this book is that it was written in an easy but actionable way.
"If you want to be " normal", you have to start acting 'normal'" snippet from the book.
If you think you have rOCD or you know you have OCD, and are having relationship concerns I think this book will help you greatly on your path to recovery.
Regardless, if you are struggling I know your pain. Keep your head up and focused on recovery. It will get better.
To your success,
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